[From Richard’s wife]
Andrew, It is 9 months since I googled “adult ADHD coach” and SimplyWellbeing.com was returned.
I want to thank you and tell you about the difference you have made to me and my family. I have an ADHD husband and 2 ADHD sons and you have coached, guided and mentored all three.
I want you to know what a HUGE difference you have made to all of us (me included). Getting in touch with you was one of the most positive things we have done since our children were born.
Prior to that internet search, both children had been in trouble with the police and suffered from addictions, both had been diagnosed as depressed, my husband was retreating further into himself, worlds away from the happy, outgoing person I had known 30 years ago and I felt control slipping away, no matter how hard I worked to keep on top of things.
Re-reading the above makes me cry – we have moved on so far from that difficult, stressful, awful time. I felt as though our family was coming apart at the seams and no one we had spoken to was able to help or even to understand our problems.
The relief I felt when I first spoke to you is indescribable. You understood our family as if you were part of it. You were able to explain to me how we had got into this situation, reassure me that it was no-one’s fault and suggest how to move forward.
Since coaching, both our sons have improved immeasurably, especially in their attitude. Their consciences have kicked in and the thought of either of them doing anything wrong now is laughable. They both still have big difficulties with everyday life, but they have ceased to view themselves as failures.
With the aid of your strategies, they have been able to succeed in areas where before they were failing. This motivates them to keep trying – with many small successes, they are slowly getting to grips with life. They are both now on the NHS waiting list for treatment.
My husband has put your strategies in place and found they work, which gives him the confidence that he can improve things. Starting with small changes, he is now tackling much more fundamental issues. He’s more in control, more positive about himself and his work and much more cheerful – he’s back to singing in the shower (badly, but it’s nice to hear such unselfconscious joy)! The years are rolling back for him.
We are functioning better as a family – we all help and support each other. We are much more tolerant and all the screaming and weeping have stopped completely! We are such a calm, happy household now. I have had 30 years to talk to my family, to try and help them cope with life. You have had a matter of hours and have made such a difference.